~Proposal~
Tuesday, May 17, 2022
Hello, dear readers!
Well, I guess my comeback this time seems to be shorter than
the previous post.
Anyway! This post is definitely long overdue. Almost two
years. I have been procrastinating to draft out the little details of the
subject above. I have a tendency to forget events in my life and hence, I am
writing this down just so I can look back and remind myself of the feelings I have
experienced especially on this very one memorable occasion in my life. And also to relive the memories of that day ;D
I am not sure how I should begin but here goes.
I guess I had a hunch that he was going to propose to me in that
year. He can’t seem to hide his feelings or plans well :P He was rather
suspicious, especially weeks before the proposal. Somehow, he wanted to “pre-book”
me on a very specific date, asking me to dress up for a certain friend’s
housewarming at a rather odd location (pardon me, I can’t remember exactly it
was).
There were a few triggering points/coincidences which have raised
my level of suspicion.
One, he has never “booked” me weeks in advance as our
plans are usually last minute.
Two, the housewarming date for a friend in Penang was
also rather close to our anniversary, which we had plans to celebrate in Penang.
When asked more details about the housewarming party, he was somehow seen nervous.
He did not seem to know much about the party (i.e. should we bring any food, what
time should we arrive, who else would be there, what gift should we prepare).
It was as if he was trying to stop me from asking too many questions.
Three, he has never asked me to dress up and what’s more if
it is just for a housewarming party for his friend. He even picked the dress I
should wear particularly. He emphasized that I should look at my very best that
day.
Four, I never recalled any new housing developments in that
location he mentioned but it sounded more like an Airbnb.
Five, I remember vaguely that his friend has just recently
signed a sales & purchasing agreement for a house and hence, it’s quite impossible
for the house to be ready that soon.
Well, as I was able to sniff something is up (because he is
such a terrible liar :P), but at the same time, I wasn’t entirely sure if my
hunch was right, I tried to prepare myself mentally. I imagined how the
proposal would be and how I should react to it. If my hunch was right, and being
the superstitious me, I hinted him that no one has actually held a housewarming
party during the hungry ghost month (the “housewarming party” coincided with the
hungry ghost festival). Mainly, I also did not wish to have the proposal happening
during that period, IF it was to happen (again, I wasn’t sure if the
housewarming party was real :P)
Due to this superstitious, he told me that he will speak to
his friend again. And ultimately, this so-called housewarming party was cancelled.
So yeah, I thought that maybe I was just overthinking or overreacting and that this
housewarming party was indeed real.
Then our anniversary came. We returned to
our hometown, Penang and celebrated our anniversary at ESCAPE theme park the
entire day. On our journey to ESCAPE theme park, he told me that he wants to
have a proper dinner date with me on that upcoming Friday (you’ll find
out why later) before we head back to KL. Which, I agreed to it without any
suspicion since it wasn’t any special occasion and there was no location picked
yet.
After our adventure at ESCAPE park the entire day, he gave
me a few options to select for our anniversary dinner. I remember the options
included Il Bacaro and FG (name shortened on purpose). He asked for my opinion about FG initially. Although FG is on the way back home, I mentioned
to him that I've been there and the ambience there is spectacular, but the food is rather mediocre and
does not justify the price we are paying. And also for the fact that I wanted to try something new. Hence, we have decided to settle at the
Italian restaurant, Il Bacaro. Somehow the anniversary dinner was rather odd because
all the restaurants he has chosen seem to have dark and romantic settings.
I would be lying if I tell you that I wasn’t nervous because
I thought the proposal was going to happen soon. I was low-key hoping that he
does not propose to me on our anniversary night because I was in terrible
condition with my slightly darkened skin after outdoor activities at ESCAPE
park, my hair was not blown dry properly after showering in a public area, the
strap of my heels snapped, makeup not covering my designer eye bags 😜😜😜 and the
list goes on. But, thankfully, he did not pop the question that night though I am pretty sure it was also one of his plans but he had to tweak for me since our anniversary date
coincided with hungry ghost festival.
Then, Friday came. I was working from home and was a
little unwell that day as I came down with a sore throat. I was very much occupied
first half of the day from visiting the doctor, sorting out with the insurance
agency if I could claim the bills for clinics not under their panel and submitting
my claim for approval under the company’s insurance. Hence, I did not suspect
anything of our dinner later that day.
I wasn’t sure what time he was going to fetch me or where we
are going until I asked. He told me that he will fetch me at 6.15pm and we are
heading to FG just because he wanted to try the food there after
seeing good reviews on Google despite the comments, I made a few days before. He told me that he just wanted to relief his stress and to have a proper dinner date with me.
After knowing he wanted to go all the way to Batu Feringghi,
I started nagging. The restaurant is indeed very far from our place. Mind you
that the journey takes about 45 minutes to an hour. And the fact that we passed
by that restaurant from ESCAPE park the other day and it was one of our options
for our anniversary dinner, we could have dined in there if I knew he wanted to
try the food so badly. I even suggested a few other places nearby that we can
get similar food. Especially when he told me that he was
having headaches too. My nagging continued on when we were on our way to dinner
hahaha! 😂 I complained that my outfit was too casual after seeing him dressing up
quite well. Partly my dressing was casual because he asked me to. I was also
nagging about the location being too far since it was pretty jam because it was
a FRIDAY, after work and school hours, and it was raining too. In my mind, I didn’t
think that all these suffers/efforts justify the time and fuel to go all the
way to Batu Feringghi for western food especially when we were around that area
few days ago.
Now, here’s the part which got me super suspicious of him.
He claimed that he has never been to FG. But, when we arrived, he
somehow knew exactly where to park. While I have been there once and did not
know that there is a designated parking area for customers. At the receptionist
table, while I was in the midst of going through the reservation list to look
for his name, he quickly ushered me into the restaurant (which later I found out was because he did not want me to see his friend's name under that list). However, I did not get
the table number reserved for us. He took my arm, and we went into the
restaurant, pacing back and forth at one particular area. Somehow, he suddenly
sat at one particular table as if he already knew exactly which table belonged
to ours. He requested me to switch seats as well, which is rather odd because
we don’t normally switch once we are seated. I was facing the entrance initially,
but my back was then facing the entrance after the switch. (the reason for the switch was just so I would not notice my friend walking through the entrance later)
Some guy was walking
pass me with balloons and one which was written as “Will You Marry Me, XXX (I
can’t remember the girl’s name)?”. I was also low-key hoping that my proposal
wouldn’t be that cheesy with balloons. But,
I just brushed off any mere coincidences and tried to enjoy the day as if we
were just on a “date”. We ordered Chicken Chop and Fish and Chips only
as I nagged at him about the food prices because I am such a cheapskate hahaha!
However, I couldn’t help but to notice that the waitresses/waiters
were somehow acting rather strangely around me. But then again, I tried not to
overthink :P Before the dinner, he told me that he wanted to meet up with his
friend (the friend who was supposed to have his so-called housewarming party) for supper/dessert after our dinner and asked me to join. Of course, I willingly accepted
the offer since I do not wish to have any desserts here.
But during the
dinner, he was somehow, fidgety. He wasn’t focused on me, kept looking at a
certain direction and he was always on his phone. I nagged at him because I
could not enjoy his presence there especially when we came so far. He looked very
nervous. I think he made a few rounds to the toilet during our dinner too hahaha!
After dinner, he asked if I would like to go to the toilet, which was rather
odd because he never does that. I’d be the one telling him that I want to go to
the toilet instead. Sensing something is fishy, I took my time in the toilet to
fix and prepare myself hahaha! But still trying to look composed because I did not want to overthink. He asked me to wait at my seat after my return
from the toilet because he wanted to look for desserts when we have already agreed to have supper/dessert with his friend. He left me alone with no explanation and in a
very hurried manner which further added to my suspicion. So yeah. I thought we were
leaving too since everything on the table was cleared off. I wore my mask.
Out of a sudden… I saw this waiter carrying a bouquet of
flowers from the other side of the room. He seemed to be walking towards my
direction. To be honest, I was really hoping it was not for me because I wasn’t
ready for any surprises at that point of time. But… as the waiter got closer, I
saw my close friend, Jojo, whom I just met the day before! She kept the
surprise from me pretty well! It wasn’t how I expected myself to be reacting,
but tears started to flow uncontrollably. I tried my hardest to stop myself
from crying but I couldn’t. It was worst when I saw my partner and his friend (whom we were supposed to have dessert with later). Hahaha!
It finally hit me that he is really proposing to me on that very night. My reaction wasn't exactly how I wished it to be. Well,
there was a video recording on what exactly happened but I will spare the details because I might want to
save it during our wedding day :P I tried to hold myself from crying but I couldn’t.
I knew whatever pictures taken would turn out ugly. Which is in fact true. Kindly
refer below.
Anyway! :D I guess it didn’t turn out like how he planned it to be, but it went well. Poor boy must have been so shocked seeing me crying
like a baby and not knowing what to do because he has completely skipped his
speech and just popped the question right away. And he must have been so annoyed with my naggings throughout the whole evening. 😂 To be honest, I was shaking during
the entire proposal. He must have been more stressed out or anxious compared to
me. Well, he finally put a ring on me after 6 years of dating, and I guess that
was the easiest “yes” ever! Hehe. Just to let you know, I nagged too after the
proposal hahah! Saying that he has must have spent quite some amount of of
money on the ring and flowers and how I would prefer if he could convert the
flowers to a proper meal (but now, my old opinion is not relevant since this is
once in a lifetime and the ring is my possession :P)
After the proposal, we just caught up with our friends and I
was still in disbelief that a proposal just happened, and I am getting married.
We went home after that and I was worried because I did not know how to break
the news to my mum hahaha! But, he followed me back to my home, carrying the
bouquet of flowers behind me while I flashed my ring to my mum. Of course, she
was shocked too! I couldn’t really sleep that night because of the happiness/excitement
that was contained inside of me. I couldn’t believe that I was engaged!
The
next day, my partner surprised me again by delivering a box of roses to me.
To be honest, I am not a fan of flowers because I always think they are a waste
since they will wilt one day. And they are not cheap :P Hence, I nagged again hahaha! 😂Well I guess, they are
alright since they are for special occasion and as I mentioned, my old opinion is definitely irrelevant 😋 The proposal was one of a kind.
My kind. I never wanted my proposal to be extravagant/lavish but more of a plan
that would catch me off guard and rather sweet/personalized/intimate. And it
was simply perfect for me. The right setting, the right witnesses, the right ring,
and the right timing 😊 I guess that “butterfly in tummy” feeling
went on for a very long time haha!
At the time of writing, I am officially and legally married
to my husband. I can’t believe I’ve got myself a husband. However, the wedding has
been postponed a few times now due to the pandemic situation. Hopefully, it will be
happening very soon! :D
Owh well. Guess he has made his choice and signed a lifetime agreement with me and there's no turning back regardless of how irrational I can be
hahaha! The next headache that is coming upon us will be the wedding and our
new home :P Wish us luck then!
Till next post!
(if there are still any readers left :P)
3:28 PM
